Friday, May 13, 2011

Love is a Verb!

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34

In this verse of scripture Jesus identifies love as a verb, not a noun. There are some big differences between feeling love and doing love? When it comes to marriage and relationship commitments a lot of folks are looking for the feeling part, but don't realize there is a doing part also!

Do you realize there are over 1,500 matchmaking organizations in the USA? I think it's great all the folks looking for love, but why such a demand? I think it has a lot to do with commitment in a relationship and what that takes vs the cultural idea of the easiness of falling in and out of love!

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love, being committed to each other, is a bit more difficult. Ever wonder if there are people that can actually stay together for good and still be in love? Is it even possible for two people to stay happy together forever? Not only to I believe it's possible, I know it is! My wife Kathi and myself, among other couples we know, really do live loving, lasting, happy marriages, even after 30 years... I joke sometimes telling people that married to Kathi for 30 years have given us 10 of the happiest years of her life! Hahaha! But the serious truth is that it doesn't come without work... or commitment... or time... or understanding! Have we ever had misunderstandings in our marriage? Of course Kathi has... (sorry, joking...) But she will tell you the same thing, that we on purpose are committed to our marriage and so we do what is necessary for it to bloom. But no matter how hard the work or the adjustments you make for your marriage, the benefits far outweigh them!

I think one of the big keys to staying in love is not finding the right person, but finding someone who is committed to becoming the right person while you work to become the right person!

If you're looking for THAT someone; then look for someone who is not afraid to put you first while you overcome your fear of putting him or her first.

If you're married, think about a step or two you can take this week to proactively love your spouse rather than reacting to what they do or don't do for you? If you're just starting to look for someone, look for someone that is not afraid to commit to  developing their love walk for you.

Remember it’s about making love a verb! 

Peace and Blessings friends, Karl